Zeng Guofan
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Managing my burnout prevention while tracking my brother's career progress
1841-07-06
This letter perfectly captures my daily reality—juggling professional responsibilities while remotely managing the entire family’s progress. The irony isn’t lost on me: I’m practicing mental health preservation while simultaneously tracking my younger brother’s study progress. This must be what being the eldest child entails—endless oversight duties.Young people today talk about ‘wellness routines,’ but I’m practicing the original version: early to bed, early to rise, and actively clearing my mind when thoughts become overwhelming. In modern terms, I’m preventing burnout before it happens. My younger brother’s study situation mirrors someone grinding for professional certification—he’s completed the materials and practice tests, but struggles with articulating his understanding during assessments. Still, I’m not pushing him too hard, remembering my own similar journey.The household news brings me comfort—our toddler son is already walking independently and thriving on solid foods despite no longer breastfeeding. My wife’s pregnancy progresses well, and our household staff remains stable. This reliable home foundation seems like having both an excellent nanny and household manager combined.True wellness isn’t about supplements—it’s learning when to give your mind a restOverseeing siblings’ progress inevitably turns you into a human progress trackerA stable home environment provides crucial support for professional performanceUltimately, managing official duties and family responsibilities both come down to the same principle—maintaining your own stability while ensuring the entire system functions smoothly.(Adapted from historical correspondence, not original text)
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My body's sending burnout warnings while I'm still overworking
1842-03-07
If I posted this update in our family group chat, my parents would be the first to react - their son finally understands self-reflection! But reading between the lines, this isn’t progress reporting so much as a full-blown health anxiety confession. My tinnitus acts like a built-in burnout detector, buzzing whenever I push too hard at work.The irony hits hard - I’m writing about ‘constantly correcting mistakes’ while simultaneously admitting ‘reducing workload is truly difficult.’ Sound familiar? It’s the modern professional’s classic dilemma: talking wellness while actually grinding through late nights. My parents sent their triple-moderation advice (work, desires, diet) from afar, and I immediately saved it... then continued juggling social obligations and deadlines.As for household matters? The fabric delivery arrived perfectly, but the tea’s stuck with Huang Shujie - exactly like when your online order shows ‘awaiting carrier pickup.’ The one comfort is knowing my daughter-in-law and grandchildren are healthy, at least keeping the family wellness metrics stable.Self-improvement resolutions are like gym memberships - the more ambitious the plan, the quicker reality intervenesTinnitus is your body’s notification system: Capacity exceeded, please reduce loadThe secret to remote parenting: Package advice as memorable phrases that play on repeat in your children’s mindsUltimately, reaching a certain age means personal development becomes health management, and health management becomes acceptance - but before acceptance, there’s always that last bit of struggle.(Adapted from historical correspondence, not original text)
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My brothers are blaming their environment when they should be fixing their mindset
1842-11-28
Honestly, writing this letter made me feel like a workplace mentor and life coach rolled into one - trying to convince one brother that changing locations won’t solve his focus issues while reassuring another that a single failed test doesn’t define his entire career trajectory.My fourth brother wrote saying he wants to study somewhere else because our home environment is ‘too distracting.’ I nearly laughed out loud - this is the 19th century version of blaming bad WiFi for poor productivity! If you’re truly committed to your goals, you could study in a busy coffee shop; if you’re not motivated, even the perfect quiet library won’t help. Then my sixth brother gets discouraged over one minor exam and claims he has ‘bad luck’ - by that logic, I should have given up after my early career setbacks too.Lately I’ve been following Wo Genfeng’s method of keeping a daily reflection journal, recording everything from work progress to personal interactions. It’s surprisingly effective - like modern-day journaling or accountability tracking. When I had that disagreement with my friend Xiaoshan, I documented our reconciliation process in my journal. Now Feng Shutang and I both maintain these journals and keep each other accountable - it’s become more consistent than any fitness routine I’ve tried.True growth comes from mindset, not just changing your environmentCareer setbacks are data points, not destinyRepairing relationships proactively shows emotional intelligenceWhether it’s career advancement, personal development, or maintaining relationships, everything comes back to getting your internal foundation right first. When your mindset is solid, external challenges become manageable.(Adapted from historical correspondence, not original text)
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My brother's rushed letters reveal more about his mindset than his workload
1844-09-02
I’m more concerned about Sixth Brother’s rushed, half-hearted letters than any workplace drama here in the capital. Other families using the same postal service manage to write detailed updates even when sending letters later, while my brothers send theirs early yet can barely scribble a few lines. getting those ‘super busy, talk later’ texts that never get followed up on - even major news like exam results gets left out.What really worries me is that after two years of education, Sixth Brother’s writing has actually gotten worse. I’ve been analyzing this, and I think it comes down to overconfidence - he’s developing that know-it-all attitude without actually building the knowledge to back it up. It echoes people who focus more on appearing competent than actually developing skills. Meanwhile, Fourth and Ninth Brothers might be progressing slowly, but at least they have the right humble attitude - proof that genuine growth requires acknowledging what you don’t know.The bright spot in all this is watching my son steadily learning his daily reading lessons - he’s more focused than his uncles at this point. Though speaking of family concerns, not having clear updates about Uncle’s health or the travel plans for our other relatives appears to be waiting for important news that never arrives - that constant low-grade anxiety that something might be wrong.People who are genuinely busy still make time for meaningful communication when it mattersOverconfidence creates blind spots that prevent real skill developmentConsistent daily learning, even in small amounts, builds stronger foundations than occasional intensive studyWhether it’s education or family relationships, everything comes back to managing that restless, impatient mindset.(Adapted from historical correspondence, not original text)
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My Four Brothers Keep Me Busy as a Family Support Specialist
1844-10-10
Getting letters from all four brothers at once seems like managing a family group chat where everyone needs something different - creative feedback, career advice, household suggestions, and personal guidance. I’ve basically become the family’s 24/7 support specialist.Fourth Brother’s writing shows real talent, but I had to remind him that creative work is like maintaining a social media presence - occasional brilliance isn’t enough, you need consistent output to build an audience. As for Sixth Brother’s career setback, this is the classic case of a promising candidate underperforming when it matters most. I gave him the standard ‘control what you can control’ talk to ease the pressure.The real surprise was Ninth Brother coaching me on household management! His point about ‘knowing versus doing’ hit home - when managers understand leadership principles but struggle with actual authority. I’m literally setting his advice as my daily reminder to avoid being that boss everyone sees through.Focus on developing character and skills you can control, not external validation that depends on circumstancesCareer setbacks can be opportunities for foundational growth if you use the time wiselyTaking constructive criticism from younger family members shows strength, not weaknessThe real art of being the oldest sibling is turning everyone’s feedback into fuel for family growth.(Adapted from historical correspondence, not original text)
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Stop Blaming the System When You Don't Get the Promotion
1844-11-30
Let me be real with you - I’m writing this because I’m worried my brothers are turning into those people who blame the hiring committee every time they don’t get the job. You know the type - the ones who claim the system is rigged instead of admitting their interview skills need work.I failed seven times before landing my first big position, and each rejection just made me double down on improving my skills - ask Dad or our mentor, they’ll confirm I never complained about the process. But some people? Their presentations are mediocre at best, yet they’ll swear the hiring manager has terrible judgment. watching someone bomb an important pitch meeting then blame the clients for ‘not getting their vision.’ The worst was our cousin - studied hard but was so convinced of his own brilliance that he never actually advanced in his career.Then there are those ‘industry influencers’ who act like corporate ladder-climbing is beneath them while they focus on niche projects nobody cares about. Honestly, they remind me of coworkers who talk about ‘disrupting the industry’ while missing every deadline - everyone just rolls their eyes behind their backs.Top performers own their failures - amateurs blame the systemArrogance will derail your career faster than any bad interviewInstead of complaining about opportunities, ask if you’re truly ready for themRemember this: In any competitive field, you can be ambitious without being entitled.(Adapted from historical correspondence, not original text)
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Managing my skin condition while playing matchmaker for my son - modern parenting struggles
1849-05-08
I’m writing about juggling two major headaches: my recurring skin condition keeps flaring up, while my son’s marriage prospects keep falling through - being a modern parent trying to manage work stress while scrolling through dating profiles for your kid.My health is the most frustrating part! Whenever I push myself mentally at work, this skin rash appears - the doctors say it’s stress-related inflammation. Now I’m working every other day at the office, basically on a flexible schedule that would make any modern HR department raise eyebrows. Thankfully my team understands and supports this arrangement, otherwise I’d probably be having performance review conversations.My son’s marriage situation is my other major concern! We passed on the Li family because they lived too far away, declined the Chang family because their daughter was from a complicated family situation - the scrutiny seems like being the pickiest parent in today’s matchmaking scene. Though honestly, I remember I wasn’t settled until I was fifteen either, so maybe we shouldn’t rush this. Meanwhile, my other son’s situation with the Guo family - where they’re practically family already without any formal agreement - feels like those modern couples in long-term relationships who just know they’re meant for each other.Workplace wellness tip: You can grind at your job, but not at the expense of your healthModern dating standards apply: Skip the entitled attitudes, find someone groundedParenting lesson: Starting education too early just leads to burnout laterSometimes managing your own wellbeing and your family’s happiness matters more than any professional achievement.(Adapted from historical correspondence, not original text)
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My brother's constant complaining worries me more than his career setbacks
1851-10-28
I’m more concerned about our brother’s constant negativity than his actual career setbacks. He’s got the most natural talent among you all, yet he’s somehow managed to become the poster child for ‘unrecognized potential.'You know the type in modern workplaces - someone with decent skills but triple the complaints. Our brother perfectly embodies this: when he was here, he didn’t focus on his development, and now back home, he goes months without meaningful work while constantly blaming ‘bad luck.’ In today’s terms, he’s the classic case of self-sabotage - his performance hasn’t collapsed yet, but his mindset already has.The ironic part is he’s actually got what many would consider an ideal setup: family support, opportunities available, yet he’s determined to undermine his own advantages. Among my colleagues, those who constantly complain about everything - like a couple of acquaintances I could name - never actually succeed. This isn’t fate working against them; it’s their own attitudes creating self-fulfilling prophecies!Meanwhile, back home, father’s working on something important: reforming how local finances are handled, which basically cuts out the middlemen who’ve been profiting from the system. These administrators are like modern corporate intermediaries - taking from both sides while adding little value. Of course they’re upset about losing their comfortable arrangement. When you help with this, remember: any contributions need to be completely voluntary. Forced participation turns good intentions into burdens, and could give those resisting change ammunition to undermine the reforms.True strength isn’t about never complaining, but about addressing problems after ventingThe hardest part of change isn’t the technical details, but disrupting established interestsFamily dynamics require balance - when some members push forward, others need to maintain stabilityCareer disappointments aren’t necessarily bad, but a defeated attitude absolutely is - if you channeled that energy into productive work, you’d be much further along by now.(Adapted from historical correspondence, not original text)
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My brother's trying too hard to network when he should be lying low
1856-10-08
Here’s the thing about my brother - he’s trying way too hard to make an impression when he should be keeping his head down. When the regional manager visited our town, everyone from the department went to welcome him except my brother. In today’s terms, that’s like skipping the CEO’s town hall meeting when your whole team shows up - you’re basically asking to be remembered for the wrong reasons.I’ve spent this past year watching workplace dynamics, and honestly, office politics can be more dangerous than actual work challenges. At least with work problems, you know what you’re dealing with. But with people? It’s all subtle power plays and hidden agendas. My brother thinks he’s being discreet, but just showing up at the wrong event or saying one wrong thing can put you on someone’s radar.What really worries me is how my family members treat professional circles like their personal networking group. They don’t realize that some situations are minefields, and some gatherings you’re better off missing. I’m constantly thinking about my exit strategy, while they’re still trying to climb the ladder without seeing the risks.Survival rule for turbulent times: low profile keeps you safe, high profile makes you a targetProfessional networks aren’t social media - every connection has consequencesTruly smart people know when to disappear from the spotlightIn times when everyone’s just trying to stay safe, sometimes the biggest win is simply keeping your position secure.(Adapted from historical correspondence, not original text)
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My brother's burnout risk worries me more than any work deadline
1857-11-08
I’m more concerned about my brother’s stress levels than any work crisis—he gets so anxious he’s like that coworker who can’t stop checking emails after hours, constantly burning himself out.Wen Fuqing was so sick he couldn’t hear and kept mumbling about work responsibilities in his fever dreams. I had to repeatedly reassure him that you’d arrived safely and the budget was secured before he finally relaxed. It’s exactly like watching someone try to work while running a fever—I practically had to force him to take sick leave and sent him home to recover. Then there’s Chen Bofu, who’s so overwhelmed with work guilt he’s basically gone into hiding in the countryside. The pressure these people put on themselves is unreal.The real issue is my brother inherited our family’s impatience gene. He’s like someone who completes 90% of a project perfectly but loses sleep over the remaining 10%. Meanwhile, Huang Zichun is thriving—handling cases so efficiently everyone’s intimidated. Sometimes that no-nonsense approach actually works better in leadership roles.High performers often create their own pressure cookersChronic stress does more damage than any work challengeSometimes maintaining perspective matters more than perfect executionSuccess depends as much on managing your mindset as managing your responsibilities—we all need to remember to breathe through the chaos. (Adapted from historical correspondence, not original text)
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My brother's perfectionism is more exhausting than the actual work
1857-11-19
What worries me most isn’t the project deadlines, but watching my brother micromanage every detail until he burns out. He’s already at director level but still insists on tracking every piece of equipment personally - admirable dedication, but completely unsustainable.I made sure to mention how Hu praised him as ‘high-potential talent’ - that’s like when recruiters call you a ‘rising star’ in today’s corporate world. But I also had to warn him that scaling up operations often leads to corporate bloat: teams look impressive on paper but become inefficient and disorganized. those tech companies with beautiful offices but chaotic internal processes.The real revelation for me after years in leadership? Stress management matters more than any professional skill. In modern terms, he’s heading straight toward burnout syndrome and anxiety disorders. That’s why I tell everyone now: no matter how busy you get, you need to prioritize mental health maintenance.Effective leaders balance hands-on oversight with strategic delegationWhen people call you ‘high-potential,’ focus on converting that into actual resultsThe biggest workplace challenge isn’t meeting targets - it’s managing your own perfectionismSuccess depends less on external circumstances and more on internal equilibrium - those who master both work and wellbeing are the true winners.(Adapted from historical correspondence, not original text)
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My brother's career indecision is giving me flashbacks to my own failures
1858-01-28
Reading my brother’s letter about ‘losing interest in his leadership role’ gave me serious déjà vu - it’s the classic career burnout we all experience when we’re spread too thin. Here he is with a solid team and resources, yet he’s dreaming about going back to school or switching to completely different fields, like someone working a corporate job while constantly browsing job listings for something ‘more meaningful.'I have to confess my own track record here: back when I had my first major position, I was supposed to focus on core skills but kept getting distracted by unrelated topics. During my corporate years, I never fully committed to mastering the business. Now in management, I still struggle with staying focused on leadership instead of drifting toward personal interests. This ‘jack-of-all-trades’ approach left me like someone who starts ten different online courses but never finishes one - lots of effort with little to show for it.What really gets me is that my brother already has stable funding from multiple sources, plus additional support lined up from successful colleagues. having a fully funded startup with investors ready for the next round, yet he’s worrying about side projects! Leadership is about building your team and systems first, not constantly pivoting to new ventures.In today’s distraction-filled world, focused attention is the ultimate competitive advantageTrue excellence comes from depth in one area, not dabbling in manyHaving reliable support systems frees you to concentrate on what really mattersSuccess in any field depends less on constantly seeking new opportunities and more on fully committing to the path you’re already on. The sweetest rewards come to those who see things through to the end.(Adapted from historical correspondence, not original text)
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My brother's workplace attitude needs work, while the other handles pressure like a pro
1858-04-19
Honestly, I’m more concerned about Wendi’s attitude than any work deadline - he’s like that coworker who’s actually competent but constantly makes passive-aggressive comments in meetings, thinking he’s being clever while everyone else just wants to avoid him.I get it because I’ve been there! I have my own stubborn streak - I might stay quiet in conversations, but my writing can come across like I’m ready for a debate. Wendi takes it to another level though - he can’t even manage his facial expressions. The moment he achieves something, he gets that ‘I’m clearly superior to all of you’ look that’s the equivalent of posting ‘Some people will never understand real dedication’ alongside photos of working late.The real problem is our family has zero grounds for this attitude! Our family reputation isn’t what it used to be, and frankly I worry I’m becoming a liability. As for skills? The workplace is full of talented people constantly improving themselves. Yuandi handles this perfectly - he’s like that quiet colleague who never boasts but consistently delivers exceptional results and gets the best performance reviews.True competence shows through consistent results, not through putting others downThe most dangerous career trap isn’t lack of ability but thinking you’ve ‘earned the right to be arrogant'Time spent criticizing others is better invested in developing your own skills - the difference becomes obvious in a few yearsJust as we need to cut off enemy supply lines, we need to cut off our own arrogance - Wendi, I’ve made these mistakes myself, and I don’t want to watch you repeat them.(Adapted from historical correspondence, not original text)
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When my brother praised me, I immediately checked my ego and oversharing
1858-05-07
Honestly, when I got my brother’s letter praising me, my first reaction wasn’t happiness - it was immediately checking myself for signs of ego inflation and oversharing. In any professional environment, these two traits are career killers waiting to happen.My recent exit from my position was pretty messy, like when a senior executive gets suddenly ‘restructured’ out of a company. What really bothers me is my pattern of starting strong but not finishing well - I don’t want to set that example for you. You’re building amazing momentum in your career right now, like that colleague everyone watches with admiration, but you’ve got to maintain that energy consistently.Speaking of colleagues, I’ve got mixed feelings about that guy who landed the prime assignment. He’s been grinding for years without recognition, and now he’s finally getting his moment. watching the quietest person in the office suddenly get the promotion everyone wanted - happy for them but also wondering when your turn will come.And about you suggesting I reach out to that contact I’ve been avoiding? Okay, you’re right. I’ve been dragging my feet on that connection, but since you called me out, I’m adding it to my to-do list. Sometimes you need your younger brother to point out the obvious.The biggest career risks aren’t lack of skill but unchecked ego and poor communication habitsEarly success means nothing without consistent follow-throughReal maturity means accepting constructive feedback even from family membersNavigating professional relationships is like walking a tightrope - you need enough confidence to lead but enough humility to listen when others point out your blind spots.(Adapted from historical correspondence, not original text)
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My brother's team is turning into a family business - and it's stressing me out
1858-05-13
Here’s what’s wild - I’m trying to recover from work stress while micromanaging my brother’s department, which is starting to look like our family’s personal employment agency. All these relatives showing up for jobs might seem generous, but without proper management, it’s just corporate nepotism waiting to happen.Our other brother has all the talent but zero subtlety - he’s that brilliant colleague who can’t help but rub everyone the wrong way. We might have different styles (I’m more the straightforward, no-frills type), but we both end up in the ‘difficult to work with’ category. I’ve learned the hard way that all my middle-age health issues - the insomnia, the eye strain - trace back to that constant low-grade resentment I carried for years. those high-performers today who sabotage their own careers with terrible attitudes.Speaking of management, my brother needs to understand that successful leaders build teams based on competence, not connections. If certain family members aren’t pulling their weight, it’s better to give them a graceful exit package than let the whole department suffer. This isn’t charity work - it’s business.Top talent often fails because of mindset, not skills - emotional regulation is the real competitive advantageFamily businesses collapse under the weight of unqualified relatives, not market competitionYour physical health is your career capital - stress management isn’t optionalWhether leading teams or managing family, stability comes from the person in charge maintaining their composure when everyone else is losing theirs.(Adapted from historical correspondence, not original text)
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My brother's grinding ten times harder than me while I'm running on empty
1859-06-06
Seeing my younger brother working ten times harder than I am with my demanding job makes me wonder if he’s secretly signed up for some extreme productivity challenge.I thought my workload was intense, but he’s taken on what seems like the entire family’s responsibilities single-handedly. watching someone voluntarily take on everyone else’s tasks in addition to their own - the classic overachiever who can’t help but optimize everything.Meanwhile, I’ve been trying to manage my own energy levels since returning to work last summer. I’ve been diligent about responding to every message and report, which has helped resolve most of the past misunderstandings. But honestly, my mental battery appears to be it’s constantly at 20% - I can handle the routine communications, but the complex work tasks require more focus than I can muster these days.The funniest part is I’ve had to set up this elaborate message relay system through our contact in the nearby town, like creating a private communication channel just for family work updates. It’s basically the historical equivalent of setting up a dedicated family group chat for urgent matters.The real workaholics never complain - they just quietly take on everyone else’s responsibilitiesClearing your inbox is the modern equivalent of resolving past conflictsEnergy management trumps time management - when you’re running on empty, even simple tasks feel overwhelmingAt the end of the day, you can recover from work setbacks, but burning out your health has no quick fix.(Adapted from historical correspondence, not original text)
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I'm taking supplements while telling my brother to stop overworking
1860-04-14
Here’s the irony - I’m popping supplements like candy while lecturing my brothers about work-life balance. They handled our uncle’s funeral with such meticulous attention to detail, checking every possible concern - if this were a corporate project, they’d be getting outstanding performance reviews.I feel pretty conflicted about my own habits though. Between the constant supplements and overdoing the healthy eating, I know I’m being excessive. But my energy levels are so low that I can’t function without the extra support. those coworkers who mainline coffee all day while posting about mindfulness - the struggle is real.What’s really amusing is my advice to the younger relatives: take up sports like archery and prioritize early mornings. Sounds familiar? It’s the 19th century version of buying gym memberships and setting multiple alarms for that 5 AM routine. Though let’s be honest, the young ones will probably ignore it thinking they’re invincible.Wellness isn’t about supplements - it’s about managing stress and expectationsPerfectionism burns you out faster than actual workMorning routines beat any supplement, but nobody wants to hear thatTaking care of yourself isn’t being selfish - it’s recognizing that your health matters more than appearances.(Adapted from historical correspondence, not original text)
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My brother's project management is like amateur DIY, and the boss keeps changing requirements
1860-04-11
The regular project updates stress me out less than my brother’s ‘construction disaster report’ - the perimeter walls and drainage systems completely collapsed, and I suspect his team piled the excavated dirt too close to the trenches, like amateur contractors who have to redo everything after the first rain.What’s worse is our senior manager, who spent six months meticulously planning our market strategy, suddenly changed the rescue plan for Liu’an at the last minute. when your boss approves the quarterly roadmap then sends a midnight email completely rewriting the priorities, leaving the whole team scrambling. To make matters worse, my brother and his colleague Xi’an both have that ‘I know best’ attitude that’s more dangerous than any actual competitor.The rainy season has turned everything into a logistical nightmare - Bao and Zhang’s teams are stuck in the mud, and Ji Gao in Leping can’t move forward either. I’m simultaneously telling them not to rush into the Anhui market while worrying about competitors sneaking into Jiangxi’s core territory, feeling like I’m managing ten different group chats waiting for responses.Construction 101: pile dirt away from your work area, like keeping your workspace organizedWhen leadership changes direction: tactful feedback works better than confrontationEven the strongest team members need to check each other’s egos to avoid disasterSuccess depends less on perfect conditions and more on people setting aside pride to work in sync. (Adapted from historical correspondence, not original text)
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My brothers need to chill - arrogance and laziness are career killers
1839-12-07
Reviewing reports and managing projects all day isn’t as exhausting as worrying about my brothers - one overthinks every critique until he’s practically burned out, while the other finally stopped coasting but still doesn’t get it: the biggest career risk isn’t missing targets, it’s having the wrong mindset.After my last letter, my younger brother took my feedback way too personally and spiraled into overanalysis. I had to dig up our grandfather’s career survival guide. When he helped me start my career, he told me: ‘There will always be more work, you have the skills, but don’t let success go to your head!’ In modern terms: don’t think a good performance review gives you license to act entitled. Humility is what keeps you in the game long-term. Look at all the failed leaders throughout history - they all thought they knew better than everyone else.Our recent project failures made everything clear: teams collapse either because the manager gets too arrogant to listen, or because team members get too lazy to contribute. This applies to any modern company too - project failing? Check if someone always has to have the last word in meetings, or if people are scrolling social media instead of meeting deadlines.Real crisis management starts with managing your own egoHumility isn’t weakness - it leaves room for future growthFamily principles are like employee handbooks: annoying until you need themI might be traveling for work soon, and what worries me most is you two and your tendency to swing between extremes. Remember: you can dodge external challenges, but you can’t escape your own arrogance.(Adapted from historical correspondence, not original text)
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My brother's treating wellness like a checklist while ignoring our family values
1861-02-03
When I got my brother’s letter about his health improving, my first reaction wasn’t relief—it was frustration. He’s treating wellness like a corporate checklist, constantly switching between different treatments and even dragging my son into his over-the-top health optimization plan.watching someone jump from one trendy diet to another—spring supplements, summer detoxes, winter wellness routines. He’s become the embodiment of that modern paradox where people chase quick fixes while ignoring sustainable habits. What really concerns me is how he’s drifting from our family’s core values. We had clear principles about moderation and avoiding extremes, but now he’s investing heavily in questionable property deals and following popular trends without proper consideration.The irony is he’s so focused on his own health regimen that he’s missing the bigger picture. He wants my son to join this medical merry-go-round when what the boy really needs is consistent healthy habits and moderation. It’s like recommending expensive supplements while ignoring basic nutrition and exercise.True wellness comes from sustainable habits, not temporary fixesFamily values act as guardrails—once you start compromising, everything slidesThe most effective health strategy is often the simplest: balanced livingManaging family wellbeing is like managing any complex system—it requires sticking to fundamental principles rather than chasing every new solution that comes along.(Adapted from historical correspondence, not original text)
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My brother thinks his kids are humble, but their words say otherwise
1861-03-14
So my brother wrote claiming all the kids in his household are humble and respectful, and honestly, that’s like saying your team never gossips during coffee breaks - completely unrealistic!Here’s the real deal: kids who stay quiet because they’re worried about causing trouble? That’s basic social awareness. But the ones who constantly play critic, pointing out everyone else’s flaws like they’re conducting performance reviews? That’s pure arrogance in disguise.People think pride means flashy behavior or aggressive confrontations, but the most dangerous kind is when someone feels so self-satisfied they think they’re qualified to judge everyone around them. I literally reminded him about this months ago - ‘if you want to avoid arrogance, start by keeping your opinions to yourself’ - but apparently that advice went in one ear and out the other.True humility means observing without constantly commentingThe ultimate pride trap: thinking you’re qualified to judge everyoneFamily lesson #1: sometimes ‘mind your own business’ is the wisest approachLearning when to stay quiet does more for character development than any textbook ever could.(Adapted from historical correspondence, not original text)
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My brother's success is blinding him to his toxic leadership style
1862-06-04
I’m more concerned about my brother’s resting boss face than any work deadline—he’s completely oblivious to how it’s tanking his team dynamics!The tension between Yuandi and his colleague Xueqin has been brewing, but the real issue is that Yuandi points out others’ harshness while missing his own stern demeanor. It mirrors when Wenfu called out my own unapproachable expression years ago, or when Shutang criticized someone for arrogance while having the same vibe. Turns out, our family has a genetic predisposition for ‘intense leadership face'—in today’s terms, being that manager who crushes KPIs but turns the office into an icebox.What worries me more is that we’re at our peak: I’m in a top role, Yuandi leads a massive team, and Jidi has his own crew, with Yuandi getting recognized left and right. It’s like our family is trending on professional networks, but I know success can breed complacency. That’s why I’ve upgraded our core principles to integrity, humility, and diligence—basically a crash course in staying grounded.Even top performers need a mirror check—your expression might be undermining your influenceWhen everything’s going well, the biggest threat isn’t competition but internal egoTrue self-mastery means managing everything from your tone to your team’s energyLeading teams is one thing, but curating your personal brand is what keeps you from crashing. (Adapted from historical correspondence, not original text)
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My brother's stuck on workplace politics while I've mastered the art of switching modes
1862-06-24
Honestly, my brother’s still obsessing over who’s winning in the workplace hierarchy, and it’s making me share my ultimate life hack - doesn’t everyone these days toggle between crushing deadlines at work and being present with family at home?Back when I was starting my career, I was that person who’d challenge every senior executive, thinking standing my ground was the only way to show strength. Now I get it: real strength isn’t about being rigid all the time, but knowing when to push hard and when to step back. It’s like modern professionals understand: you need that ‘I’ll-work-until-this-presentation-is-perfect’ energy for the office, but then switch to ‘whatever-you-want-dear’ mode at home.The real danger? Trying to be the top performer at work while also chasing the biggest house and fanciest lifestyle. That’s like flooring the accelerator while slamming the brakes - something’s bound to break. From what I’ve observed, the people who sustain success long-term are the ones who master when to be ambitious and when to be content.True resilience means knowing when to charge ahead and when to rechargeBringing work intensity home usually leaves you failing at bothThe sweet spot: professional drive balanced with personal presenceAt the end of the day, workplace dynamics have always existed, but the smart ones learn to dance between determination and flexibility.(Adapted from historical correspondence, not original text)
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My brother's burning out from public scrutiny while I manage our family's reputation
1862-07-16
Honestly, I’m juggling equipment quality control while playing therapist for my brother - he’s really struggling with all the public scrutiny and criticism lately.The equipment situation needs attention because we invested serious money, like discovering your premium online order arrived defective and needing to dispute the charge. But what really concerns me is my brother thinking I shouldn’t share external feedback with him. That makes no sense - if family members have areas needing improvement, who else should tell them but me? when a team member’s performance slips and the manager’s constructive feedback gets met with ‘stop stressing me out’ - I’m basically providing free counseling here.The reputation issue is what really hits hard - it’s like social media backlash for high-profile people. Remember when those executives faced extreme consequences that didn’t match their actual mistakes? Their families suffered tremendously not because of major errors but simply because they were too visible. I keep advising my brother to handle criticism like crisis management: the more you fight back against negativity, the more it spreads; but if you focus on self-improvement, the controversy eventually fades. Unfortunately, he wants to confront everything head-on, much like I did in my younger days.Career survival rule: The higher you climb, treat criticism like weather reports - acknowledge it but don’t let it dictate your dayFamily unity strategy: You can debate privately but must present a united front publiclyThe real anxiety: It’s not your own potential failure that worries you, but how it might impact your entire family teamUltimately, when you’re leading from the front, you need to occasionally look back and warn others about potential pitfalls, because when everyone’s success is interconnected, one person’s setback affects the whole group.(Adapted from historical correspondence, not original text)
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My brother's overmedicating and I've cured two people by telling them to stop
1862-08-15
I’m more worried about my brother’s medication habits than his actual health condition - he’s like those people who pop supplements for every little thing, convinced they need constant pharmaceutical intervention.I’ve recently proven that sometimes the best medicine is no medicine at all. One colleague was so sick he couldn’t eat or drink for two weeks and had literally written his will. I convinced him to stop all medications for eleven days, and yesterday he was sitting up eating soup! Another friend was critically ill back in May - I gave him my simple philosophy: ‘Broaden your mind instead of narrowing your focus on symptoms, and let your body heal without constant chemical interference.’ He stopped medications for a month and now he’s back to his normal self. These results beat any specialist’s prescription!My brother’s name means perseverance and consistency, yet he shows zero consistency when it comes to medication - trying every new remedy, switching treatments weekly, essentially using his body as a testing ground. Honestly, staying busy with work projects might be the best therapy for him - when you’re focused on deadlines and responsibilities, you don’t have time to obsess over every minor symptom.True wellness comes from not overcomplicating your health routineMedication taken out of anxiety often causes more harm than the original conditionSomeone named ‘steadfast’ should practice emotional stability above all elseJust as you hold your position in work projects, you need to maintain calm in managing your health - I’m starting to feel like an amateur wellness coach for my siblings.(Adapted from historical correspondence, not original text)